Human values are based on love and compassion. We are a race that grows together. We are a community and not a race that grows individually. Hence it becomes important to have good thoughts about each other and not be thinking negatively about one another.
While talking about all these ideal and bookish things, we can’t forget about how real-life goes in this materialistic world. We as human beings ought to move forward collectively and must remain together like a closed fist. But sadly that is not the case with us human beings.
Instead of loving each other and working for the betterment of the community on a collective level, we humans are so engulfed by negative thoughts about each other that we start to have bad feelings for other human beings. Instead of working together like a chain to help the race and mother earth, we act as similar poles of a magnet that are moving totally in the other direction.
One of the most negative things that have happened to our race is the development of grudge between one another. All human beings have a past, and no one is perfect for sure. But, by developing negative thoughts and ill will about someone just because of an incident of past is not up to the morals of human values.
Human Values
Human values teach us to forgive but if you start to hold a grudge against someone then be rest assured that this is going to hurt you as well. Holding a grudge against someone is harmful to the person himself. The basic reason for it being harmful is that it is simply against the core values of human beings.
Now, we will have a look at a few ways in which holding a grudge can be harmful to us, and why should we avoid this negative feeling.
DEVELOPMENT OF NEGATIVITY
It is the beauty of the human mind and soul to remain positive no matter how certificating the environment or situation becomes. We are a community, and we are thought to grow and move forward together and face the problems of the world in a better way. On the other hand, if we start to hold a grudge against each other, then there is no way that the positivity is going to stay with us.
The human mind is probably the most complex thing, and if somehow it is not nurtured properly, it is surely going to hurt us.
So, if you want to live a nice and positive life then never hold a grudge for someone. If someone has hurt you in the past, it is better to forgive them and move on with your life.
LACK OF PEACE OF MIND
It is said that if you love someone then they stay in your heart, but if you hate someone and hold a grudge against someone then they are going to stay on your mind and get on your nerves for a great period; this causes a lack of peace of mind to the person holding a grudge. Rather than trying to achieve success on his own and become a better person, the person is always on the lookout for ways to somehow degrade the other person. He cannot even enjoy his success rather he wants that other person to fail miserably.
Such is the state of mind of a person who holds a grudge against someone. Try to remain level headed.
LOSS OF HUMAN VALUES
We human beings are thought of as the most sophisticated, advanced and well-disciplined species in the world. However,we are neither the strongest animals nor the tallest. Why can we be considered as the best species on this planet? The reason behind this great achievement of human beings is the development of great human values.
Some of our core human values are:
- Positivity
- Politeness
- Forgiveness
- Compassion and love
- Working as a unit.
All of these core human values are lost when we hold a grudge against someone. Positivity is replaced by negativity. Politeness is replaced by harshness. Forgiveness is replaced by the fire of revenge and love gets replaced by hate.
All in all, we can say that a human being does not remain or behave as a human if he holds a grudge against someone. We always need to improve ourselves and holding a grudge can be the biggest barricade in that way. We should work on loving and learn to move on in life and forgive people rather than hold grudges.